It has been big news that former NFL player Brian Holloway’s vacation house was trashed at a Labor Day party by an estimated 300 local teens in Upstate New York.
None of the teens were part of the Holloway family, although one of Holloway’s sons knew some of them. Rather, they just broke in to an empty house and called their friends for a party. The damage from the party is said to be in the $20,000 to $40,000 range. Many of the students outed themselves by posting pictures and comments of and about the party on social media.
In addition to being enraged by the damages, Holloway has embarked on a crusade to have the kids admit what they had done and make amends. The results have been very disappointing. Holloway has started a website, helpmesave300.com, where he has posted details and pictures of the party and over the last weekend, he asked the kids to come to his house for a veterans’ benefit where they could help clean and repair the damages.
As of this writing, only four of the three hundred students have come forward to fess up and make amends, despite the fact that many of them have been identified by their social media posts. What is even more disappointing, some of the parents are outraged at Holloway for outing their kids. According to Holloway quoted in a New York Post article covering the party:
‘Some complained that this will ruin their kids’ college plans. Others have threatened me, saying “Take my kid’s name down or I’m gonna press charges against you.”‘
‘You’re going to press charges against me? C’mon, now. If that were one of my children, they would be doing a year’s worth of apologizing,’ said Holloway, who has eight children.
At ThirdParent, we strongly recommend that parents be aware of and involved in what their teens are doing. Our focus is on online activity, but certainly there is a parallel here. Parents who are railing against Holloway for shining a spotlight on their teen rather than showing the teen how to take responsibility for his or her actions, or not doing irresponsible things in the first place, are not doing them any favors in the long term.
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