Subtweeting Still Isn’t Cool – Penn State Edition

If you’re the parent of a college freshman – and I am one – you probably know that the first few weeks or months of a school year with a new roommate can be a tricky time.

A story playing out this week at Penn State, and on Twitter, is a cautionary tale. It’s an unfortunate situation even if the girls involved don’t understand that, and the fact that it is being aired publicly on social media is cringe worthy to say the least.

At the center of the story are two female roommates who weren’t getting along. One of the students (Roommate A) allegedly had whooping cough (unfortunate) and smoked weed in the room (not a good idea) when the other was away. Roommate B was upset, and had been subtweeting negative comments about Roommate A. Roommate A found the comments, printed them out and posted them on the door of their dorm room.


B ( or a friend) tore the comments off the door then the RA tried to get involved. Roommate A posted the message publicly on Twitter, of course.


B tried to explain herself to A via text message, and of course A posted the messages on Twitter.


Some random online publication turned the incident into a story – College Girls’ Roommate Fight Gets So Bad It Goes Viral on Twitter


Roommate A kept fanning the flames throughout, retweeting her supporters and fighting with her haters on Twitter. There were plenty of people “watching” who are in both camps. A Twitter poll has almost 40,000 votes so far (an “L” is a loss, by the way):


It looks like A or B will be moving to another room, and no doubt this will have died down by next week. Thanks to Twitter, the fight will live on permanently, and may even show up in a job interview somewhere down the road. Let’s review a few basic ideas:

  • Don’t smoke weed in the dorm, especially if your roommate is not okay with it
  • If you have a problem with someone close to you, discuss the problem face to face
  • Don’t subtweet, ever
  • When you’re in a hole, stop digging





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